Serious question, I need some feedback here. This is what I normally look like:
I pretty much always dress this way, with a flat cap (or my checkered hat), a t-shirt with some kind of video game or cartoon character on it, jeans, and while they’re not pictured, I usually wear socks with…
Alright, so I did respond to this, but since the Tumblr app is apparently MEGA LAME, it didn’t go through so I’ll have to type it all again.
Maybe this little story will help you out or inspire you or whatnot. Maybe it won’t! But I’ll go ahead and tell the tale anyways.
I have extremely thick hair - it is a literal poofball in the morning. Kids being kids would often tease me and bully me for it, like with everything else they did. I grew to loathe my hair, because the environment around me took a stronghold on me said because my hair wasn’t straight and thin like all the other people’s, it is defective and I should be tormented for it. I’d receive brushes as gag gifts or just randomly find gum placed in my hair.
So to make the kids tease me every slightly less, I bought a straightener and would sit there making sure every little strand was flawless. Every morning before school, 30 minutes to an hour was wasted of my life trying to appease to people that didn’t care to be appeased for. And then I was normal.
When I left school, that’s when I really got into ELO/Jeff Lynne. And it sounds cheesy, but the guy is a real huge inspiration to me. So I know during the 70’s, everyone had big poofy hair, but Jeff Lynne in particular kept his poofball after the fact. He was comfortable. He was respected and liked. And it just made me think about how I’ve been trying to change a fact of myself for so long.
So I went out and bought some curling gel to get rid of frizzies and now I love my stupid dumb poofball. When it comes to my hair, there’s this aura of confidence about it that people grow to love it, too. I’ve only had one person ever since try to do the “you should straighten your hair!” bullshit to which I say, “No, I like it better like this.”
So I’m not here to tell you to just do it, but if you feel like you need to change yourself, just do it. But do so for yourself, not just so you can stand in front of a metaphorical mirror metaphorically applying a hot iron to your metaphorical hair to metaphorically please others. Because if so, you’re just going to waste your time forever trying to put a fake image of yourself out there.
That isn’t to say wearing a not-video game t-shirt is lying about your identity, but it’s apparent that video games are an important thing to you. Don’t be an astro dork like I was and brush them off, trying to appeal to more normal activities for the sake of others. Your happiness and being comfortable comes first; other people’s opinions of you be damned.
1. Do you want to do thing for yourself?
If yes, don’t beat around the bush. Do it.
If no, don’t.
2. Can you change [thing] about yourself and want to?
If yes, change thing.
If no, accept what can’t be changed and work around it.